My wife wrote this to me and read it to me as we celebrated our wedding anniversary at a little bush chapel where we celebrate our anniversary every year. This year we gave each other a new wedding ring as a kind of re-bonding. The note from my wife means so much to me. When most marriages are breaking down as time goes on, our marriage just keeps getting better as we grow closer in intimacy. I am only sharing it because I hope it might help other people decide to escape the sexual abuse industry and heal their emotional wounds through true emotional intimacy with their wife and not with the pseudo-fake fix from porn that pretends to offer intimacy when it is really sexual abuse. Physical connection without emotional intimacy is abuse. Here's what my beautiful wife wrote to me. She said I can share it here.
You are so unique. You are so special. You are the husband I’ve always wanted but thought didn’t exist. I have put my trust in you and I want you to feel safe trusting me. I treasure how you maintain the sacred circle of our intimate relationship and how you defend us from outside attacks. Your loyalty to me is a gift of unspeakable value. Your loyalty protects and guards my dignity as your wife and I have the greatest respect for you because of your loyalty. When I see you demonstrate your loyalty to me I feel safe and secure in your love. I know that you are on guard to protect us because you value me and you value what we have together. You value me. That knowledge is most precious because it satisfies the deep part of my heart that longs so much to be valued by you and to joined with you. You have not rejected me, nor abandoned me. You fill my heart’s needs to belong, to be valued. I feel loved and the longing in my heart is fulfilled. How precious you are to me. The man of my dreams and I thank God for you from the core of my heart.
I’m so happy to be with you and never want to be separated from you. I’m proud of who you are, amazed at your life’s journey and how God has led you to become the truly wonderful person you are today...... I’m so happy of who we are becoming as a unified couple because we are growing up in love together. We are true partners, like peas in a pod – not the same person, but very much the same personalities and we are growing more and more together as we go on our journey. We're growing in love. The wedding celebrant says, ‘What God has joined together, let no-one separate.’ What can separate us from the love of God? Nothing. No-one. No-one can separate us from loving each other and from being emotionally and spiritually joined together for eternity – no-one except us. We can choose to separate or we can choose to stay because God gave us that freedom of choice – to be united or to be separated. We are not forced to be together, but we’re together because we long to be together and love to be together. I never want to be separated from you. It’s so lovely to feel so comfortable with you, because you show me respect, you care about what makes me happy, you ensure my dignity is protected, you accept me and value me. Thank you for being who you are. I treasure the love that you give me.
I want you to feel always loved, always accepted by me and always to know how much I treasure you, respect you and admire you and the work you are doing to help others. You are a my one and only husband, my life companion and closest friend. I love you very much. I feel that I don’t have adequate words to let you know how important you are to me but please know that you are loved.