What Does Porn Offer its Performers?
The attraction of the sexual abuse industry to its "performers" is that they receive a form of value. They receive adoration, attention and even worship from others and this is translated by the performers that they themselves, must have a certain value based on the input from others. The admiration from others is required because the performers might not value their own inner selves sufficiently. When a person's worth or value is in doubt, the admiration of others becomes all consuming. Despite knowing that the admiration from their viewers is based presumably primarily only for their outward appearance or physical abilties, it is thought to 'better than nothing. To be admired for my body is better than the alternative - that without my body being on display, no one thinks I'm worth anything."
Pamela Anderson - what she got from doing porn
In the Pamela Anderson video, she is appears to be emotionally torn. She feels empowered and valued when a multitude of men admire her body in Playboy magazine, but she feels hurt when own her husband prefers to view other women's bodies rather than be intimate with her. She longs for her husband's validation and attention. She clearly longs to valued as his unique partner - a whole person -not just for her body, but for both body and character. She longs to be exclusively desired by her husband as being the best and only woman in the world for him. The adoration of a multitude of unimportant men who view Playboy, is important to her still because she still retains the feeling of being important to all those men despite the fact that she is not emotionally connected to any of them and that they mean nothing to her personally. The porn viewers provide her still with a feeling of being worth 'something' to a lot of men and valued by them for at least her outward form. This is hollow validation. Pamela Anderson knows that it won't last and soon those same men will criticise her as she ages or puts of weight or has a plastic surgery failure. The temporary validation given to her by porn is clearly not as important to her as the permanent value her husband would be able to offer her because his value would include her as a whole person. This is the validation that Pamela Anderson appears to be longing to receive.
When her body ages and is no longer 'hot' (novel or unique), Pamela Anderson will and indeed appears to already be seeking out the security of knowing that her husband values her supremely over all other women and that his love for her will not weaken as her outward attractiveness fades with age. She longs to know that her husband will not discard her to click on another woman. She longs to know that she has more than click-bait value. She is a whole person. She wants to be valued as a whole person but in a pornified society, that is almost impossible to achieve and even more so, when she has already been 'type-cast' as only having value as a depersonalised body. A person who is confident in themselves, does not need or crave the adoration of other fallible, pornified, human beings.
Porn does not offer her any demonstration of admiration for her character. Like a stark, zombie-like, expressionless face of a 'fashion' model, her emotion is completely ignored and disregarded in porn. She, as a whole person, is blacked out. There is no emotional connection or even recognition of her individuality as a whole person who has feelings, likes and dislikes. The female porn performer is usually depicted in submissive roles. She is most often violently dominated by the male performer/s. Finally, after serving her sole purpose of bringing the porn addict/viewer some level of sexual arousal and emotional climax, her body is discarded. Her body's value is limited. Her true value as a whole, unique person is denied. This is the pain that appears to be visible in Pamela Anderson's interview.
When her body ages and is no longer 'hot' (novel or unique), Pamela Anderson will and indeed appears to already be seeking out the security of knowing that her husband values her supremely over all other women and that his love for her will not weaken as her outward attractiveness fades with age. She longs to know that her husband will not discard her to click on another woman. She longs to know that she has more than click-bait value. She is a whole person. She wants to be valued as a whole person but in a pornified society, that is almost impossible to achieve and even more so, when she has already been 'type-cast' as only having value as a depersonalised body. A person who is confident in themselves, does not need or crave the adoration of other fallible, pornified, human beings.
Porn does not offer her any demonstration of admiration for her character. Like a stark, zombie-like, expressionless face of a 'fashion' model, her emotion is completely ignored and disregarded in porn. She, as a whole person, is blacked out. There is no emotional connection or even recognition of her individuality as a whole person who has feelings, likes and dislikes. The female porn performer is usually depicted in submissive roles. She is most often violently dominated by the male performer/s. Finally, after serving her sole purpose of bringing the porn addict/viewer some level of sexual arousal and emotional climax, her body is discarded. Her body's value is limited. Her true value as a whole, unique person is denied. This is the pain that appears to be visible in Pamela Anderson's interview.
Bill Margold - what he got from doing porn
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Bill Margold
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Bill Margold was a famous, male porn performer. He also was not confident in himself and states that he suffers from an inferiority complex also but that porn makes him feel valued because other people express admiration for him. The admiration is not shared by everyone, but it is expressed by the pornified viewers who focus solely on Bill Margold's physical achievements. (The non-pornified viewers believe that his actions betray the sacredness of the most intimate communication possible -which is a combination of both physical and emotional spheres).
On 17 September, 1982 Bill Margold was interviewed by Oprah Winfrey in a TV series called "People are Talking."
When Bill Margold attempted to defend his character against the apparently public accusations that he is 'sleezy' for his role in pornography, he is asked a question by Oprah Winfrey. The following converstion took place.
Oprah Winfrey: "and yet you take the most precious, intimate act and put it on screen and it's apparently not of value to you."
Bill Margold: "It is totally of value to me. It's also a way of perpetuating my immortality and that's more valuable.
Oprah Winfrey: "I don't understand that. You said that before."
Bill Margold: "No one seems to understand. I'm in this business for one reason and one reason only and it's not sex because I've had a lot of that and it's been a lot of fun. And that's a very private and intmate thing to me. When I perform on camera, I'm a machine and I'm a very good machine, well oiled, finely tuned and one of the best in the business. I can give you what you want in 10 seconds and nobody else in the business can. And what they want is called the money shot and I can't get really into that. Ah, beyond that. I'm not in it for the money, because I'm the strangest animal in this business. I don't really understand money. I grew up on my own after high school. I sold dog food door to door. I went to the probation department and worked as a probation officer. I'm not into money. I'm in it for the glory. I like to see myself on the screen. I like to see people watching me on the screen because I hear them laugh, I hear them sigh, I hear them clap. They applaud me. I have an inferiority complex. I am aware of that and this validates my purpose for existence."
On 17 September, 1982 Bill Margold was interviewed by Oprah Winfrey in a TV series called "People are Talking."
When Bill Margold attempted to defend his character against the apparently public accusations that he is 'sleezy' for his role in pornography, he is asked a question by Oprah Winfrey. The following converstion took place.
Oprah Winfrey: "and yet you take the most precious, intimate act and put it on screen and it's apparently not of value to you."
Bill Margold: "It is totally of value to me. It's also a way of perpetuating my immortality and that's more valuable.
Oprah Winfrey: "I don't understand that. You said that before."
Bill Margold: "No one seems to understand. I'm in this business for one reason and one reason only and it's not sex because I've had a lot of that and it's been a lot of fun. And that's a very private and intmate thing to me. When I perform on camera, I'm a machine and I'm a very good machine, well oiled, finely tuned and one of the best in the business. I can give you what you want in 10 seconds and nobody else in the business can. And what they want is called the money shot and I can't get really into that. Ah, beyond that. I'm not in it for the money, because I'm the strangest animal in this business. I don't really understand money. I grew up on my own after high school. I sold dog food door to door. I went to the probation department and worked as a probation officer. I'm not into money. I'm in it for the glory. I like to see myself on the screen. I like to see people watching me on the screen because I hear them laugh, I hear them sigh, I hear them clap. They applaud me. I have an inferiority complex. I am aware of that and this validates my purpose for existence."
Porn's Sting
Porn performers are human beings with both body and character/mind/heart. The combination of body and mind/character forms a soul.
What porn insists upon is that the respect that is morally the right of every human being be severed from female performers. Porn doesn't just want the female performer's body. Porn takes the entire female performer, but while porn pretends to elevate the body to worship its 'beauty', or sexual attractiveness, it insists that the mind/character be destroyed. No regard is to be paid to the emotional security/welfare of the female porn performer. She must be prepared to accept abuse and to pretend that she is enjoying the abuse. She is told that she must pretend to be experiencing multiple orgasms when any woman knows that sexual penetration without emotional connection and gentle foreplay is not going to spark the best sexual experience. The porn performer is trained to pretend that she enjoys being raped, sexually abused, emotionally abused and injured. Porn that does not display violence against women fulfills the mysognistic anger than many men feel against women.
The female porn performer, is not valued for her personhood. She is that pretty piece of meat that is used to make the viewer feel empowered. He gets to penetrate all the beautiful bodies that he would not be able to 'score' in the face to face world. A sad syndrome occurs in the minds of emotionally wounded porn viewers. Those 'unreachable' women have angered him. They have worn provocative clothing. They have teased him. They have advertised their bodies as being sexually available to him, but then they have rebuffed and rejected his advances. Rejection hurts him emotionally. As this cycle is repeated, the man fantasises about 'taking' control over these women's bodies and emotions. He wants them to suffer now. He wants revenge on them for their cruelty and for refusing his sexual advances. He attaches the hatred he has for every woman who has disempowered him, perhaps even his abusive mother or other mother-figure. Porn allows the perfect practice and provides the perfect mental preparation for the rejected, wounded man to become aggressive to women. Mentally, in his imagination, the 'pay-back' fantasy is created. The angry feelings are embodied in the body of the female porn performer. Her body will be defiled by the porn viewer. The porn viewer becomes more masogynistic with every view. He blames and hates women for stirring him up. If those 'evil' women would stop tempting him, his body would not be a in perpetual state of sexual arousal. But while the viewer blames the scantily dressed women for his unease, it is in fact, not the woman's fault. It is the viewer's mind that responds sexually. It matters not if the woman was clothed or not clothed. The hypersexualised male would sexualise her anyway.
The viewer clicks on another porn 'performer.' Another body, then another and another. Her body is only one of millions of other options waiting for the porn customer to abuse. She is violated, denegrated, depersonalised and dehumanised. She is DEVALUED as an individual.
What porn insists upon is that the respect that is morally the right of every human being be severed from female performers. Porn doesn't just want the female performer's body. Porn takes the entire female performer, but while porn pretends to elevate the body to worship its 'beauty', or sexual attractiveness, it insists that the mind/character be destroyed. No regard is to be paid to the emotional security/welfare of the female porn performer. She must be prepared to accept abuse and to pretend that she is enjoying the abuse. She is told that she must pretend to be experiencing multiple orgasms when any woman knows that sexual penetration without emotional connection and gentle foreplay is not going to spark the best sexual experience. The porn performer is trained to pretend that she enjoys being raped, sexually abused, emotionally abused and injured. Porn that does not display violence against women fulfills the mysognistic anger than many men feel against women.
The female porn performer, is not valued for her personhood. She is that pretty piece of meat that is used to make the viewer feel empowered. He gets to penetrate all the beautiful bodies that he would not be able to 'score' in the face to face world. A sad syndrome occurs in the minds of emotionally wounded porn viewers. Those 'unreachable' women have angered him. They have worn provocative clothing. They have teased him. They have advertised their bodies as being sexually available to him, but then they have rebuffed and rejected his advances. Rejection hurts him emotionally. As this cycle is repeated, the man fantasises about 'taking' control over these women's bodies and emotions. He wants them to suffer now. He wants revenge on them for their cruelty and for refusing his sexual advances. He attaches the hatred he has for every woman who has disempowered him, perhaps even his abusive mother or other mother-figure. Porn allows the perfect practice and provides the perfect mental preparation for the rejected, wounded man to become aggressive to women. Mentally, in his imagination, the 'pay-back' fantasy is created. The angry feelings are embodied in the body of the female porn performer. Her body will be defiled by the porn viewer. The porn viewer becomes more masogynistic with every view. He blames and hates women for stirring him up. If those 'evil' women would stop tempting him, his body would not be a in perpetual state of sexual arousal. But while the viewer blames the scantily dressed women for his unease, it is in fact, not the woman's fault. It is the viewer's mind that responds sexually. It matters not if the woman was clothed or not clothed. The hypersexualised male would sexualise her anyway.
The viewer clicks on another porn 'performer.' Another body, then another and another. Her body is only one of millions of other options waiting for the porn customer to abuse. She is violated, denegrated, depersonalised and dehumanised. She is DEVALUED as an individual.
Porn Teaches Violence Against Women & Children
A meta-analysis published in Aggressive Behavior stated that there was a significant correlation between sexually violent pornography and attitudes supporting violence against women. https://www.focusforhealth.org/how-pornography-impacts-violence-against-women-and-child-sex-abuse/ however the same principles are present in 'soft' porn. All porn is violent against women as it violates a woman's privacy and dignity.
A meta-analysis published in Aggressive Behavior stated that there was a significant correlation between sexually violent pornography and attitudes supporting violence against women. https://www.focusforhealth.org/how-pornography-impacts-violence-against-women-and-child-sex-abuse/ however the same principles are present in 'soft' porn. All porn is violent against women as it violates a woman's privacy and dignity.
Porn Causes Addiction
https://www.ausfamily.org/resources/sexual-behaviour/sex-addiction-how-does-it-happen-and-who-are-its-victims
https://www.ausfamily.org/resources/sexual-behaviour/sex-addiction-how-does-it-happen-and-who-are-its-victims
The Proven Link Between Pornography and Sexual Violence
Youtube video
(WARNING: contains triggering images)
https://youtu.be/iC_0fZvLv7E
Youtube video
(WARNING: contains triggering images)
https://youtu.be/iC_0fZvLv7E
Porn Destroys Marriages
Marriage (long term intimate relationships) can only function sucessfully if both partners are able to trust in the love and loyalty of their partner.
When couples traditionally exchange marriage vows they declare that they will forsake all others and cling to their partner. The vow to 'forsake all others' is generally understood to mean that the newly weds are promising to make their spouse their exclusive sexual partner and that they will not engage in any intimate relations or behaviours with anyone other than their spouse. The couple will only have eyes for each other. Well adjusted partners enter into marriage because they are convinced that their spouse is unique; that they possess a wonderful character; that they are incredibly special to the point of being irreplaceable. They are considered to be the most attractive partner and the most valuable person in their life. The spouses feel incredibly valued by each other and the admiration is mutually experienced.
Porn destroys the user's concept of his spouse's value.
If a person doesn't feel valued, they will try to find that value somewhere. Women will dress provocatively in an effort to compete with the porn actresses who have focused her husband's attention. Men and women might have affairs to gain a sense of being valued.
Porn devalues the spouse. Porn convinces the consumers and their partners of destructive lies. The consumer believes that their partner is now substandard. They have devalued their partner. Their partner has suddenly become less attractive; they are no longer 'playful' or 'sexy' enough. They are 'frigid,' 'cold,' prudish,' 'old-fashioned.' They simply are not 'good enough' anymore and so there is no logical reason why he (she) should continue to restrict themselves and burden themselves with a sexually exclusive relationship with their partner. The forsaken partners rightly feel that they have been rejected by their partner - betrayed by the one who had once found them to be irresistible and unique. No longer are they valued. No longer are they secure in the knowledge that they are 'the only one'; they are shocked to learn that they are not so unique, not so attractive, not so special - not so valuable. In fact, porn shouts in the partner's face, 'You are not worth much. You're no longer good enough for me. In fact, you are replaceable.'
Porn usage is a betrayal of the partner's loyalty and love. The bond that sexual exclusivity constructed, is broken by the intrusion and usage of porn and the consequences of that betrayal is harm and destruction of the relationship.
Marriage (long term intimate relationships) can only function sucessfully if both partners are able to trust in the love and loyalty of their partner.
When couples traditionally exchange marriage vows they declare that they will forsake all others and cling to their partner. The vow to 'forsake all others' is generally understood to mean that the newly weds are promising to make their spouse their exclusive sexual partner and that they will not engage in any intimate relations or behaviours with anyone other than their spouse. The couple will only have eyes for each other. Well adjusted partners enter into marriage because they are convinced that their spouse is unique; that they possess a wonderful character; that they are incredibly special to the point of being irreplaceable. They are considered to be the most attractive partner and the most valuable person in their life. The spouses feel incredibly valued by each other and the admiration is mutually experienced.
Porn destroys the user's concept of his spouse's value.
If a person doesn't feel valued, they will try to find that value somewhere. Women will dress provocatively in an effort to compete with the porn actresses who have focused her husband's attention. Men and women might have affairs to gain a sense of being valued.
Porn devalues the spouse. Porn convinces the consumers and their partners of destructive lies. The consumer believes that their partner is now substandard. They have devalued their partner. Their partner has suddenly become less attractive; they are no longer 'playful' or 'sexy' enough. They are 'frigid,' 'cold,' prudish,' 'old-fashioned.' They simply are not 'good enough' anymore and so there is no logical reason why he (she) should continue to restrict themselves and burden themselves with a sexually exclusive relationship with their partner. The forsaken partners rightly feel that they have been rejected by their partner - betrayed by the one who had once found them to be irresistible and unique. No longer are they valued. No longer are they secure in the knowledge that they are 'the only one'; they are shocked to learn that they are not so unique, not so attractive, not so special - not so valuable. In fact, porn shouts in the partner's face, 'You are not worth much. You're no longer good enough for me. In fact, you are replaceable.'
Porn usage is a betrayal of the partner's loyalty and love. The bond that sexual exclusivity constructed, is broken by the intrusion and usage of porn and the consequences of that betrayal is harm and destruction of the relationship.
Divorce lawyers have begun to notice a trend: Porn is ruining marriage.
In an informal meeting survey in 2002, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers questioned 350 divorce attorneys and found that roughly 60 percent reported that internet porn played a significant role in the divorces, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half of such cases.
It’s not just lawyers who are picking up on the trend. In 2005, Dr. Jill Manning, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in sexual addiction, pornography, or betrayal trauma, brought her research on porn and its connection to divorce before the Senate. According to Manning’s research, 56 percent of divorce cases involve one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites (Monica Gabriel Marshall, 28 July, 2017).
https://verilymag.com/2017/07/causes-of-divorce-effects-of-watching-pornography
In an informal meeting survey in 2002, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers questioned 350 divorce attorneys and found that roughly 60 percent reported that internet porn played a significant role in the divorces, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half of such cases.
It’s not just lawyers who are picking up on the trend. In 2005, Dr. Jill Manning, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in sexual addiction, pornography, or betrayal trauma, brought her research on porn and its connection to divorce before the Senate. According to Manning’s research, 56 percent of divorce cases involve one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites (Monica Gabriel Marshall, 28 July, 2017).
https://verilymag.com/2017/07/causes-of-divorce-effects-of-watching-pornography