"As kryptonite is to Superman, so porn is to humans." That is the pathetic and false teaching of many so called 'self-help' sexual addiction recovery groups. It's absolutely wrong and it's cruel.
There exists a force called in humanity called will power. Some people practice using their will-power more than others. In our society, many people are unaccustomed to using their will power.
Porn merchants have 'cultified' us into developing a narcissistic type of attitude where self must always be indulged - without regard to how our behaviours affect others. The golden rule states, "Do unto others as you would want them to do to you," but this standard is now considered irrelevant to many manipulated minds. We are now in modern times and we are entitled to 'Just Do It' and 'if it feels right, go for it.' We are constantly being berated and brain-washed as the porn merchants chant their cliche that there are no moral absolutes as far as using our sexual organs are concerned. Sexual organs are income earners and they are weaponised against others for profit without regard for the owner's health. The targets - both male and female - suffer in the war forced on them by the porn merchants and they stay virtual slaves when they are deceived into believing that they are powerless to escape.
John believes he is powerless to stop his hypersexualised behaviour, even though he doesn't want to hurt his wife. What John doesn't realise is that his belief is false. He already possesses the will-power to quit his compulsive, sexually abusive behaviour.
In reality, is John, the husband in the cartoon, really powerless to stop looking at porn? If someone put a gun to his head and told him that if he didn't stop looking at porn there would be consequences, would the man have enough will power to stop his behaviour? Of course he would! He is the ONLY one who DOES have the power to stop his abusive behaviour. But sadly, he is convinced by certain groups, that he is powerless.
Who is powerless? A woman who is raped has been over-powered. A child that is molested by her father as she sleeps in her bed at night is powerless. In both cases the person raped is powerless. The woman could not stop the attacker from sexually abusing her. The child was truly helpless to defend herself against the pedophile's attack? How can the rapist claim the same defence? If a rapist or pedophile tries to plead 'not guilty' because he was powerless to stop his compulsion to rape, the judge would not consider that to be a justifiable defence. The desire to rape might have been overwhelming, but the man did in fact exercise his power of choice. He chose to rape instead of making any number of other decisions eg. he could have decided to phone life-line counsellor, go to a hospital, to a police station, or to go home and lock himself in his house. The rapist might claim that the woman was 'asking for it' by wearing provocative clothing, but that is illogical. Despite the provocation, it was the rapist who made his own decision to rape.
If your wife, daughter, mother or sister was raped by a man and his plea was that he was powerless, how would you view that? Would you take pity on him? If you were sitting on the jury and a man claimed powerlessness as his defence for raping a woman, would you consider him powerless? The false and dishonest belief of powerlessness is endorsed by organisations that claim absolute honesty is required from the very start to recover from so-called ‘sex addiction.’ However, it is hypocritical to say that addicts need to be brutally honest, but then claim that they are powerless victims when they were not forced to act upon their urges. Undoubtedly the urges are very strong as that is a side effect of being hypersexualised, but these so called addicts are not powerless. The belief of being powerless and victim mentality, and their already low self-worth, exacerbates their battle with self and reduces their will power to try to overcome the compulsions. Men and women inherently possess strong willpower but their will power has been deceptive eroded by our cultural perverse thinking and diet.
In the cartoon above, who is the powerless person regarding the husband's desire to view the porn magazine - the sexually abusive images? It is his wife who is powerless to stop the husband's abusvie sexual behaviour. She can set boundaries, ask for his cooperation, give an ultimatium or she leave the relationship, but she can't over-power his choice. She can't force him (and should never try to force him, and vice versa. "A man (or woman) convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still." A wife can only begin to trust her husband again if she is convinced that he has developed a strong dislike for porn in all its forms.
Everyone must take full responsibility for making their own choices. Partners of a troubled relationship can find support for healing when they realise that hypersexualisation is likely a major cause of their intimate difficulties. Both partners might realise that both of them have been subtly manipulated since babyhood to become hypersexualised by the PIMP EMPIRE and the porn pushers. Society has been thoroughly pornified and is now operating along the same lines as a sexually abusive cult.
It's very interesting that the success of PIMP EMPIRE depends on its customers/consumers believing that they are powerless to stop hankering after their commodities - the women and children who are 'servicing' their customers. Young boys, youths, young men and old men are sold the same lie by the porn pushers. The lie is that a man's hypersexualisation is simply normal sexuality. Men are not even aware of the condition called hypersexuality. The porn merchants assure them that their obsession with 'sex' and their compulsive sexual behaviour is again normal for them because they have 'a high libido' and that they are 'highly sexed' and that they are 'too much man for one woman' and that no 'red-blooded male' should deprive himself of the many 'sexual' opportunities to which he is entitled. The situation is similar to a drug pusher telling a person addicted to a substance that their withdrawal symptoms are actually symptoms of having a naturally elevated need for drugs. Sexual irritation, sexual pressure, constantly thinking about sexual interactions, feeling stressed as to how long you have to 'wait' until the next opportunity arises and compulsive/obsessive thoughts are all symptoms of being hypersexualised. Being hypersexualised is a real condition that reveals there have been an oversupply of dompamine in the brain. Too much dopamine is toxic to the brain so the brain protects itself by becoming dopamine-resistant which diminishes the ability to experience pleasure. The dopamine receptors don't respond to dopamine and this causes the 'compulsion' to engage in risky behaviour or to view images that stimulate the release of adrenalin.
Adrenalin is the fear hormone and it is not released in large quantities in normal sexual relationships. Normal sex is exciting, but it does not produce a state of insecurity or fear.
Adrenalin sports depend on fear and insecurity of the outcome and the porn merchants have managed to anchor their consumers on to adrenalin so that they will seek out dangerous, shocking and violent experiences anchored to the sex organs. "When violence occurs in a sexual context, the violence is invisible." The result is that consumers call the sexual and violent assault, 'rough sex.' In reality, there is no such thing as 'rough sex.'
When dopamine receptors are blunted and resistant to dopamine, the previously pleasurable experience ie porn, prostitutes, affairs don't give the same pleasure hit or adrenalin hit. So the compulsion to perform more daring, adrenalin-releasing behaviours becomes more intense. The consumers begin to engage in behaviours that they previously found distasteful, but that's exactly why they progress to those practices. The adrenalin gives the buzz, but soon even adrenalin becomes toxic and the dreaded ED strikes. Erectile dysfunction. That usually helps men realise that there actually is something WRONG with the sales pitch they have been hearing from the porn merchants.
Thankfully, hypersexualisation can be reverse, quite quickly, but it takes determination (aka will power), effort and a reprogramming of the mind.
If the will power is used to resist the initial urges, the brain can recover from the abuse and can begin to reset itself in about 3 weeks. By 3 months, new neural pathways are established in the brain and the dopamine receptors are generally functioning well again.
Recovered consumers are a huge threat to PIMP EMPIRE. The message is that their consumers are entitled to have their 'normal' sexual appetites satiated by indulging in sexually abusive acts which they mislabel as 'sex.'
It is ironic that the official organisations whose purpose it is to assist so called 'sexaholics' and 'lustaholics' and 'sex addicts' preach the same deadly lie to their members. " You are powerless to recover from your 'sex addiction.' You will always be 'triggered' or 'tempted' and will likely have on-going relapses.' That is the same hellish lie told by the porn merchants to its slaves!
In the many 'non-recovery' groups that masquerade as healing centres, members are duped into believing the falsehood that they are powerless to stop their hypersexualised behaviour. They are indoctrinated to believe that they will only be able to 'control' their sexually abusive urges temporarily. The groups provide a 'comfort' network where supposedly 'powerless' men, meet with other men who also have been misled to believe they are powerless over the compulsions to sexually abuse others through porn, prostitution, strip clubs, phone sex, live streaming, swinging, pedophilia etc. The result of this negative mind-set is that some members commit suicide because they can't accept a future where there is no escape from the torment of hypersexualisation and its compulsive obsession.
People who understand that they are not powerless, quickly gain confidence in themselves. Their dignity of womanhood and and manhood is fully restored and they are free of all sexualised triggers. The mind comes under the control of the loving spirit and men and women both become free from hypersexualisation and its triggers. Like a slave set free, these empowered people begin to live the life they choose to live. They become the person they always wanted to be.
Knowledge is power. The truth will set you free. Healing starts with learning the truth.
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