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Triggers (Decisions)
True recovery from porn addiction and obsessive-compulsive hypersexualised behaviour is possible. Relapse is not inevitable, however understanding the science behind problematic behaviour is vital.
There are 5 primary ways that compulsive sexual behaviours can be triggered and understanding these ways is vital to becoming free.
There are 5 primary ways that compulsive sexual behaviours can be triggered and understanding these ways is vital to becoming free.
- Diet-induced triggers
- Anchors-induced triggers
- Stress-induced triggers
- Incorrect belief induced triggers
- Revenge triggers
Diet-Induced Triggers
"Many studies have drawn the connection between excessive food intake and addiction in both animal models and humans. A 2001 study in The Lancet observed a similar dearth of dopamine receptors in the brains of many obese people as in those hooked on cocaine or alcohol. The new research adds a more nuanced understanding of just how food can modify the brain—and shows that differences in the brain from the outset can predispose an individual for overeating." (March 28 in Nature Neuroscience) https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/addicted-to-fat-eating/
Certain types of foods create an opioid effect in the brain and increase dopamine levels:
Certain types of foods create an opioid effect in the brain and increase dopamine levels:
- Gluten can be degraded into several morphine-like substances, named gluten exorphins;
- Sugar releases opiates and dopamine and can cause the same addictive response and withdrawal symptoms as cocaine and other illicit drugs;
- Dairy and cheese trigger opiate and dopamine release as cocaine does - Cheese is as addictive as drugs because of a chemical called casein. This is found in dairy products and can trigger brain's opioid receptors. Opioid receptors are linked to the control of pain, reward and addiction; and
- pizza, unsurprisingly, came out on top of the most addictive food list. The study found certain foods are addictive because of the way they are processed. The more processed and fatty the food, the more it was associated with addictive eating behaviours.' (References below)
Addicted to Fat: Overeating May Alter the Brain as Much as Hard Drugs
In a study published online March 28 in Nature Neuroscience, describes "these rats' indulgent tribulations, adding to research literature on the how excess food intake can trigger changes in the brain, alterations that seem to create a neurochemical dependency in the eater—or user. (Scientific American is part of Nature Publishing Group.) Preliminary findings from the work were presented at the Society for Neuroscience meeting in October 2009." The study found that, "like many people, rats are happy to gorge themselves on tasty, high-fat treats. Bacon, sausage, chocolate and even cheesecake quickly became favorites of laboratory rats that recently were given access to these human indulgences—so much so that the animals came to depend on high quantities to feel good, like drug users who need to up their intake to get high." www.scientificamerican.com/article/addicted-to-fat-eating/
In a study published online March 28 in Nature Neuroscience, describes "these rats' indulgent tribulations, adding to research literature on the how excess food intake can trigger changes in the brain, alterations that seem to create a neurochemical dependency in the eater—or user. (Scientific American is part of Nature Publishing Group.) Preliminary findings from the work were presented at the Society for Neuroscience meeting in October 2009." The study found that, "like many people, rats are happy to gorge themselves on tasty, high-fat treats. Bacon, sausage, chocolate and even cheesecake quickly became favorites of laboratory rats that recently were given access to these human indulgences—so much so that the animals came to depend on high quantities to feel good, like drug users who need to up their intake to get high." www.scientificamerican.com/article/addicted-to-fat-eating/
The Opiod Effect of Certain Foods
a) Opiates binding to opiate receptors in the nucleus accumbens: increased dopamine release www.drugabuse.gov/publications/teaching-packets/neurobiology-drug-addiction/section-iii-action-heroin-morphine/4-opiates-binding-to-opiate-rece (link removed) and https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/teaching-addiction-science/brain-actions-cocaine-opioids-marijuana
b) Gluten can be degraded into several morphine-like substances, named gluten exorphins. These compounds have proven opioid effects and could mask the deleterious effects of gluten protein on gastrointestinal lining and function. Gluten could “mask” its own toxicity by exorphins that are produced through gluten protein digestion. Gluten-containing cereals are a main food staple present in the daily human diet, including wheat, barley, and rye. jhpn.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s41043-015-0032-y
c) Junk foods and sugar can cause the same addictive response and withdrawal symptoms as cocaine and other illicit drugs www.healthline.com/nutrition/10-similarities-between-junk-foods-and-drugs#section10
d) Sugar is noteworthy as a substance that releases opiates and dopamine and thus might be expected to have addictive potential. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16460879/ and https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/3161588
e) Dairy and cheese trigger opiate and dopamine release as cocaine does - Cheese is as addictive as drugs because of a chemical called casein. This is found in dairy products and can trigger brain's opioid receptors. Opioid receptors are linked to the control of pain, reward and addiction https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-3285478/Cheese-really-like-crack-Study-reveals-food-triggers-brain-drugs.html and http://www.latimes.com/food/dailydish/la-dd-cheese-addictive-drugs-20151022-story.html Pizza, unsurprisingly, came out on top of the most addictive food list. The study found certain foods are addictive because of the way they are processed. The more processed and fatty the food, the more it was associated with addictive eating behaviours. Cheese is especially addictive because of an ingredient called casein, a protein found in all milk products. During digestion, casein releases opiates called casomorphins. [Casomorphins] really play with the dopamine receptors and trigger that addictive element http://www.latimes.com/food/dailydish/la-dd-cheese-crack-science-20151023-story.html And the cheese-equals-drugs idea came from Dr. Neal Barnard, president of the Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine and author of "Breaking the Food Seduction." In an article for VegetarianTimes.com Barnard called cheese "an addiction." "Actually, it's more accurate to say I'm hooked on casomorphins, the tiny, biologically active compounds produced when my body breaks down milk proteins," said Barnard. When the body attempts to break down casein, a protein found in all milk products, the amino acids in the protein don't completely separate, resulting in strings of amino acids. Casamorphins are the smaller strings of amino acids. " Casomorphins attach to the brain's opiate receptors to cause a calming effect in much the same way heroin and morphine do," said Barnard. Laymen terms article outlining the basic science of cheese and its opioid drug properties. “ The casomorphins only explain why we like cheese so much and why it is so hard to give it up. It’s the sugar (lactose), animal protein and the saturated fat content (which triggers IGF-1 in the body, and is the reason it is now being strongly linked to several cancers) that make it so bad for you.” https://yumuniverse.com/addiction-to-cheese-is-real-thanks-to-casomorphins (link no longer working). In regard to addiction though, it is the opioid effect of dairy casomorphins that must be considered to be a significant factor too.
f) Gluten grains and pseudo grains contain substances that cause an opioid effect https://jhpn.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s41043-015-0032-y
a) Opiates binding to opiate receptors in the nucleus accumbens: increased dopamine release www.drugabuse.gov/publications/teaching-packets/neurobiology-drug-addiction/section-iii-action-heroin-morphine/4-opiates-binding-to-opiate-rece (link removed) and https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/teaching-addiction-science/brain-actions-cocaine-opioids-marijuana
b) Gluten can be degraded into several morphine-like substances, named gluten exorphins. These compounds have proven opioid effects and could mask the deleterious effects of gluten protein on gastrointestinal lining and function. Gluten could “mask” its own toxicity by exorphins that are produced through gluten protein digestion. Gluten-containing cereals are a main food staple present in the daily human diet, including wheat, barley, and rye. jhpn.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s41043-015-0032-y
c) Junk foods and sugar can cause the same addictive response and withdrawal symptoms as cocaine and other illicit drugs www.healthline.com/nutrition/10-similarities-between-junk-foods-and-drugs#section10
d) Sugar is noteworthy as a substance that releases opiates and dopamine and thus might be expected to have addictive potential. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16460879/ and https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/3161588
e) Dairy and cheese trigger opiate and dopamine release as cocaine does - Cheese is as addictive as drugs because of a chemical called casein. This is found in dairy products and can trigger brain's opioid receptors. Opioid receptors are linked to the control of pain, reward and addiction https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-3285478/Cheese-really-like-crack-Study-reveals-food-triggers-brain-drugs.html and http://www.latimes.com/food/dailydish/la-dd-cheese-addictive-drugs-20151022-story.html Pizza, unsurprisingly, came out on top of the most addictive food list. The study found certain foods are addictive because of the way they are processed. The more processed and fatty the food, the more it was associated with addictive eating behaviours. Cheese is especially addictive because of an ingredient called casein, a protein found in all milk products. During digestion, casein releases opiates called casomorphins. [Casomorphins] really play with the dopamine receptors and trigger that addictive element http://www.latimes.com/food/dailydish/la-dd-cheese-crack-science-20151023-story.html And the cheese-equals-drugs idea came from Dr. Neal Barnard, president of the Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine and author of "Breaking the Food Seduction." In an article for VegetarianTimes.com Barnard called cheese "an addiction." "Actually, it's more accurate to say I'm hooked on casomorphins, the tiny, biologically active compounds produced when my body breaks down milk proteins," said Barnard. When the body attempts to break down casein, a protein found in all milk products, the amino acids in the protein don't completely separate, resulting in strings of amino acids. Casamorphins are the smaller strings of amino acids. " Casomorphins attach to the brain's opiate receptors to cause a calming effect in much the same way heroin and morphine do," said Barnard. Laymen terms article outlining the basic science of cheese and its opioid drug properties. “ The casomorphins only explain why we like cheese so much and why it is so hard to give it up. It’s the sugar (lactose), animal protein and the saturated fat content (which triggers IGF-1 in the body, and is the reason it is now being strongly linked to several cancers) that make it so bad for you.” https://yumuniverse.com/addiction-to-cheese-is-real-thanks-to-casomorphins (link no longer working). In regard to addiction though, it is the opioid effect of dairy casomorphins that must be considered to be a significant factor too.
f) Gluten grains and pseudo grains contain substances that cause an opioid effect https://jhpn.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s41043-015-0032-y
Anchor-Induced Triggers
Subtle manipulation of human sexuality by Porn Merchants in our pornified society, has caused many people to anchor a sexual response to a non-sexual cue. Anchors might be called 'fetishes' while other cues are considered to be 'normal.'
Examples of common fetishes are high-heeled shoes, underwear, images, acts and scents. Many fetishes are suffered by serial, sexual murderers who are unable to experience sexual 'satisfaction' or arousal unless their fetishes are indulged - eg violence accompanies the sexual activity, 'sex' with a corpse etc.
Cues considered to be normal are the sight/images/videos of naked women, even if those women are clearly being insulted, degraded, humiliated and abused.
Examples of common fetishes are high-heeled shoes, underwear, images, acts and scents. Many fetishes are suffered by serial, sexual murderers who are unable to experience sexual 'satisfaction' or arousal unless their fetishes are indulged - eg violence accompanies the sexual activity, 'sex' with a corpse etc.
Cues considered to be normal are the sight/images/videos of naked women, even if those women are clearly being insulted, degraded, humiliated and abused.
Lessons from Porn & Reality Corrections
Stress-Induced Triggers
Childhood trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex traumas cause a person to feel insecure and unsure of their true value. The emotional wounds inflicted in childhood or in any abusive situation, can prompt the sufferer to try to medicate the wound in an effort to numb or 'escape' their pain. Some of the medications used as escapes or numbing agents are drugs, gambling, alcohol, smoking/hookah, over-eating, eating dopamine increasing foods, watching movies, gaming, reading fiction books, sexually abusive behaviours i.e. pornography, visiting strip clubs, using prostitutes, rape.
Incorrect Belief-Induced Triggers
False beliefs can trigger compulsive urges if a person believes that a sexual response is 'natural' or that they are powerless to resist the urge and that because it is 'natural' they will have no relief from the urge for the rest of their life. When a hypersexualised person believes they are doomed to suffer so severely forever, it can trigger an effort to escape the pain. An emotionally injured person is robbed of any hope when they are convinced that they are powerless to overcome the compulsion.
Some false beliefs are that:
Some false beliefs are that:
- the condition of hypsexualisation is normal;
- some people have a naturally higher libido than others;
- every 'red-blooded' man 'does' porn;
- people with 'high libidos' and 'red-blooded men,' need more 'sex' than others and require more sexual partners than the 'average' person;
- all 'normal' men want to see naked, partially-naked or 'beautiful' (ie young) women at every opportunity;
- all 'normal' men want to have 'sex' with as many different women as possible but feel restricted to fulfil their desires by social customs;
- it is impossible to recover from sexual abuse addiction completely and be trigger-free;
- there are sexaholics;
- people struggling with sexual abuse are powerless to overcome their compulsion.
Revenge Induced Triggers
When a former porn addict has difficulty in their relationship with their partner, either over a miscommunication or perceived criticism, the addict will often feel irritated and angry in response. The anger is most often directed at their partner who then is cast as being the enemy.
The former addict's partner might have quite rightly objected to some perceived mistreatment or they could perhaps have simply made a request for a change in behaviour. It might be a small and insignificant issue that has been raised by the partner, but to the reformed porn addict it is a criticism, an attack, an attempt to control him and this megative thinking nutures a feeling of being persecuted by their partner and rapidly develops into a resentment.
Resentment can appear a trivial response to the stress of being 'criticised' but this is on many occasions, misunderstood by the former porn addict. Their partner was trying to seek an emotional connection with their husband/boyfriend but it was perceived as a criticism. The former porn addict resents the request and cherishes a resentment against the partner.
Cherishing the resentment leads to the former porn addict feeling justified in viewing their partner as evil or nasty, instead of being their closest friend and with this mindset the addict's subconscious mind begins to seek an escape from the stress by accessing familiar neural pathways.
Resentment is not the friend of the porn addict who wants to recover completely from porn addiction. The thinking must be corrected from "My partner is not the enemy. She just wants to connect more deeply with me. What can I do to move closer to her? If she is asking for a need to be met, how can I fill it for her?"
The former addict's partner might have quite rightly objected to some perceived mistreatment or they could perhaps have simply made a request for a change in behaviour. It might be a small and insignificant issue that has been raised by the partner, but to the reformed porn addict it is a criticism, an attack, an attempt to control him and this megative thinking nutures a feeling of being persecuted by their partner and rapidly develops into a resentment.
Resentment can appear a trivial response to the stress of being 'criticised' but this is on many occasions, misunderstood by the former porn addict. Their partner was trying to seek an emotional connection with their husband/boyfriend but it was perceived as a criticism. The former porn addict resents the request and cherishes a resentment against the partner.
Cherishing the resentment leads to the former porn addict feeling justified in viewing their partner as evil or nasty, instead of being their closest friend and with this mindset the addict's subconscious mind begins to seek an escape from the stress by accessing familiar neural pathways.
Resentment is not the friend of the porn addict who wants to recover completely from porn addiction. The thinking must be corrected from "My partner is not the enemy. She just wants to connect more deeply with me. What can I do to move closer to her? If she is asking for a need to be met, how can I fill it for her?"
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Transcript of the Video by Emerson Eggrichs
The University of Washington studied 2,000 couples for 20 years. They found that during conflict the vast majority of wives criticized and complained.
Why? She cares. As I say, women confront because they care. They don’t confront to control.
For example, it’s not a turn-on to a woman to control her husband. Instead, she confronts, criticizes, and complains to resolve what concerns her. Her goal is to experience an emotional connection which is fundamental to intimacy.
But there is no one in his life who talks to him the way she does. He feels put down. He feels that she is using the topic over which they have conflict as an opportunity to send him a message that she doesn’t like who he is as a person.
The researchers asked him what he feels when she criticizes and complains. He voiced, “I feel ongoing criticism is contempt for who I am as a human being.”
So, she seeks to do the caring thing but he interprets her as contemptuous. She does the loving thing but he labels her disrespectful.
#loveandrespect #emersoneggerichs #husband #wife #marriage #christian
The University of Washington studied 2,000 couples for 20 years. They found that during conflict the vast majority of wives criticized and complained.
Why? She cares. As I say, women confront because they care. They don’t confront to control.
For example, it’s not a turn-on to a woman to control her husband. Instead, she confronts, criticizes, and complains to resolve what concerns her. Her goal is to experience an emotional connection which is fundamental to intimacy.
But there is no one in his life who talks to him the way she does. He feels put down. He feels that she is using the topic over which they have conflict as an opportunity to send him a message that she doesn’t like who he is as a person.
The researchers asked him what he feels when she criticizes and complains. He voiced, “I feel ongoing criticism is contempt for who I am as a human being.”
So, she seeks to do the caring thing but he interprets her as contemptuous. She does the loving thing but he labels her disrespectful.
#loveandrespect #emersoneggerichs #husband #wife #marriage #christian